Friday, August 29, 2008

I sat along Tamaki Drive after my run.
Coincidentally the sun was setting.
Finally, something consoling.
No, I wasn't being emotional, I was just trying to be appreciative.
Its my way of seeking solace.


Time passes so slowly at night.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Its easy to go unnoticed in Uni.
Put on a different jacket, wear a cap, tie up my hair, look down, sit at the corner end seat, plug in.
Maybe my sitting partner wondered why am I not attending lectures again.
Maybe the lecturer didn't even notice someone sitting at that corner.
Maybe people around thought its weird wearing a cap during winter.
But it doesn't matter because they do not know who is that girl.

Its easy to feel invisible in Uni.
I plugged in and it seems as though there was only me, myself, I and someone who seems to understand singing through my ipod.
I saw a few familiar faces today but none recognized me.

Its really nothing, I was just lazy to smile today.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

This pain is too much to bear

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Sigh.
My ability to block out my thoughts is failing me.

... wth... I had a really bad night... I was perpetually having ridiculous dreams/nightmares about the Olympics I hardly felt rested this morning. -_______-""

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Finally, something not-so-nonsensical

I don't know why but I actually feel very comforted and happy today.
(Although I'm so far behind for all my papers and I'm just starting on Contracts test)

Its one of the rare occasions my mood swings towards the positive side - so much so that I have to blog about it.

Maybe it was the grocery shopping I done just now (I made it to both Taiping and Foodtown! Also a reason why I actually spent twice the amount I budgeted to)

Maybe its because I made it to Torts (I had nightmares throughout the night about oversleeping such that I woke up in time - how ironic and miraculous is that!)

Maybe I have figured out certain stuff

Maybe I have accepted certain stuff

Maybe there isn't really a need to know why. Why must we always know why. Sometimes there isn't a reason or rather it doesn't even matter. Because what matters most is already in place.

Its been quite some time since I've blogged about...well...issues about life, if you will. I realized I've been writing quite a fair bit of crap the past few months. Not that I've made a recent revelation or anything like that, but well, I reckon its better to think things through when you are at balance or peace with yourself - at least you will not run the risk of swaying towards the negative or paranoia which tends to be a slippery slope and before you know it, you enter the realm of depression.

I guess thats my vulnerability - the inability to control yet the ability to over-control my feelings. It sounds a lil...awkward and contradictory but if you think about it, most characteristics, regardless of how different they are, can be used to describe you in one way or another - it just depends on which context you are using it. Some say that I'm hardworking but come on, who is inherently hardworking? I can be the laziest person you know yet the most hardworking person you've met - it all depends on what I'm doing or who I am with.

Characteristics used to describe us are just a reflection of how we present ourselves in front of the people we mix with. I am actually a lil skeptical of its accuracy in portraying us as a whole. But I reckon it more or less does for some, well at least it shows where the person's personality tends to. Oh wells, thats just a random thought of mine - it kinda serves as a reminder that although first impression counts, its not decisive. Sometimes, you gotta take a step back and accommodate a lil more.

Alright, what was my point? Oh ya, my inability to control and my ability to over-control. When I was younger, I thought being a good person was a cool idea so I envisaged myself to be a good person. It sounded pretty easy and it feels good too. Whats more, everything to me was either black or white, right or wrong - just do the right thing and I am good and everyone would love me. Easy, no?

Of course, I grew up and was introduced to something called Grey and something called Subjectivity. Being good was no longer as simple as it seems but I thought as long as I stand firm on what I believe in, I will still be good.

Of course, I continued growing and realized that I no longer understood what 'good' means. Good for who? Good to who? Struggled quite a bit and gave in to countless temptations thinking that it doesn't matter any more - when you lose your definition of 'good', you lose your persistence in maintaining that belief. When there is a loophole in your faith, you can and will come up with all reasons to stray from it - which I did.

I didn't do anything outwardly harmful and people hardly noticed it. But I know its something obviously wrong. But who knows, who cares when nobody actually was affected by it? I guess thats why we have something called conscience and moral. Nobody needs to know - as long as you do and you care - thats enough because that is going to plague you for quite some time, if not, forever. So I was settled that yes, I'm a horrid person with corrupted thoughts - we all do don't we? But as long as I do not convert it into actions, it will be fine. I'm just being human.

But that brought another problem forward. That is my ability to control - gradually, I became so in tune with controlling I started unknowingly over-controlling. My objective mind was initially used to tell me what to do and what not to do. Soon, its usage broadened and now its telling me what to think, what to feel and what not to and how to be a good person.

Whats wrong with that? Good sounds acceptable and desirable. But there is something wrong with that, I failed to see its consequences. When you void yourself from feelings you kinda lose a part of yourself. It wasn't really apparent at the start but it kinda exposes you to a danger of falling harder when you realize it. Things do not go smoothly in reality and its not always certain that good begets good. When you do not get a flowery outcome as you imagined, you start questioning the reasons and the worthiness of your efforts. Sooner or later you try to find yourself and to your horror, you can't. Are you really good? Or being good for the sake of being good? What is the point of being good? At that instance of questioning, I usually fall into a deranged state and thats when I lose it all - a sudden lost in control in everything - thats when my inability to control occurs.

I guess a solution to most, if not everything is a matter of balance. How to achieve that? I'm still figuring - such stuff takes time, experiences and maturity. Being good is a tricky lil thing, being good and still preserving yourself is mind-boggling. Good - what a broad term it is. Good as a human, a citizen, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a student, a passenger, a customer or a worker?

I know you guys might think that I'm thinking too much again. But, hey, I'm striking a balance here, I don't wanna run the risk of having psychosis during contracts haha.

And of course, how can I not remember to say this:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY NAT!!! (2/08/08)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY JO!!! (6/08/08)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SPEN!!! (12/08/08)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY JES!!! (21/08/08)
No, I'm not trying to be objectively good, I'm trying to sincerely wish you guys haha!

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

help.me.

I felt my heart stopped briefly when I saw the time when I woke up this morning.
8.19am.
Well done. I missed Torts again.
I can't believe or rather, can't get used to the fact that I can sleep through all my alarm clocks.
Damnit.
Is it some incurable disease I recently got infected with?
Damnit.
Must be the beef I was eating the past week - it must have some sleep-inducing properties in it.
I really need a kick-ass alarm clock.
Dammmnnnniiitttttttt.......

Friday, August 8, 2008

CHINA, Japan or Europe? [Edited]

*rips hair apart...
Ok, this is going to be real quick cause I'm supposed to do my tutorial for the next hour.
[edited]: I actually missed my tutorial at last =(

BUT my whole mind is clouded with conflicting thoughts about...
WHERE I SHOULD GO IN DECEMBER!!!
I was set on going to Japan since last year, I bought the lonely planets and felt as if I'm so well-prepared for the trip the only thing lacking was the air ticket.
In order not to disappoint myself again, I was determined to go this year.
Then a slight change in plans and we decided to go Australia which was just cancelled.

After which I was still determined to backpack Japan although I have not exactly came up with a plan to convince my parents to let me do it alone.

But recently I've been hearing so much about China. I mean, I have been hearing about China growing and blah quite some time ago but as the day of entering into the working society draws near, I can't help but feel the need to know more about the economy. I know China is growing at a breakneck speed. I see and hear about it everyday through the media and people. But I some how feel unconvinced that I would or even might work there or even have anything to do with them. I know I need to be physically there to experience their growth - not just see but actually feel it.
(Ok, I admit, I do not exactly like the China Chinese but I guess its just a baseless stereotype. I need to go there and see it for myself)

And considering it would be just after the Beijing Olympics, I'm quite sure I would be blown away by what I have to see. They are growing, and growing fast. I remembered watching CNA when I was in Singapore - MM LKY was talking about them and their importance. There was this episode about wonder kids - kids with talents. They interviewed 2 kids - 1 from Singapore another from China, both are around age 9. And I was so impressed and touched by what that China kid had to say. You can never expect that from a 9 year old Singaporean. They.are.so.matured. The Singaporean didn't exactly leave a very deep impression. My parents went over to Mongolia and China during June and when they came back, he told me that I have no idea how strong is China now. Even Mongolia is not as underdeveloped as I imagined. At last, he just ended with a sigh, 'You kids, are gonna suffer next time.' - Implying that we are either going to face such strong competition from China or we (Singaporeans) are not in such a rosy situation as we think we are.

In the past, I was always firmed on working anywhere but China. But I reckon its not for me to say anymore. Business knows no geographical boundaries. Embrace China.

Ok what happened to my short post and tutorial?!
Anyhows, let me continue.

WQ is traveling in Europe now - and it would be perfect if I could join her in December. I can fly over in early December, start the tour by myself to the places they have already visited and then meet up with them in Netherlands. Sounds cool, perfect and plausible. BUT its gonna cost a bomb and the opportunity costs - forgo China or Japan?

Traveling to China is cheaper and potentially useful for my future career. But I'm pretty sure no one would want to accompany me to China and it would be a straight no from my parents to do that alone - I'm not that confident that I even dare to.

Traveling to Japan is my dream and potentially useful too - Japan is the second largest economy in the world and I have the utmost respect for their working attitude. And their super cool culture! But its expensive...

Traveling to Europe - easy to get a nod from my parents since WQ and her friends are there already. But its gonna be SO expensive I might faint from hyperventilating when I work out my budget. Maybe Europe is a better choice for graduation trip, when I do not want to think about any career-related stuff.

Ahhhh........ where should I go or would I even go any where at all?

[edited]: Oh! I decided to have a wish list at the side, replacing the previous page element 'In the news' cause it was such a hassle - it needs updating which I don't and it gets real outdated. Yup, my birthday is around the corner, ~ 5 more months. You get my obvious hint?

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Well Done.

Well done Huiling.
You missed:
  1. Macroeconomics tutorial
  2. Art History tutorial
  3. Torts tutorial
out of
  1. Macroeconomics tutorial
  2. Art History tutorial
  3. Torts tutorial
  4. Contracts tutorial
.......................................................
And freak! Law tutorials are COMPULSORY. I can't believe I slept through all my freaking alarm clocks AGAIN.

This is the 3rd week and I feel as though uni just started. Considering the number of lectures and tutorials I've been missing, I'm really going no where.
(I took out my calculator just now as I was about to do my tutorial and realized that it was dusty)

Damn... and I thought there might be a chance of getting into honours for law.
You know what, I'm really going full pelt through this semester and hopefully, make it better than the last and consistent to the first two years.

Last semester was disappointing and I've tried making changes (i.e. switching majors) to make it better. I shall not, would not and cannot disappoint myself again. Come to think of it, I'm doing papers which I enjoy best this sem - Econs, Art History, Contracts and Torts.
(Linghui must have dominated me recently)

Digressing...
Not a very good start to my pseudo proclamation of my goal in being hardworking as seen above. But just digressing for a moment...

I had one of the best Sashimi and Nigiri yesterday. I love Japanese food. Really. Ok, I shall not carry on talking about food just in case I start having cravings again.

I was flipping through Fortune (Issue: Global 500) during breakfast and read an article on Noble Group. Reading such stuff always make me go, 'wahhhhh.............' Flipped through the other pages and read about the power shift and the world's largest corporations and I go 'Wooo.........' I really admire the executives' intelligence, confidence, decisiveness, coolness and whatever not. They seem or rather are, out of my league. But its always nice to daydream every once in awhile.

And so they ranked the top 500 world's largest corporations. I skimmed through the whole list trying to find one from Singapore. Surprise, Surprise, Flextronics International came in at 378 (a fall from 292) and guess what, Malaysia's Petronas is before us at 121! (Haha no, I'm not trying to imply anything!)

And I realized that there are really quite a few South Korean corporations on the list. Hmm... wb, good foresight, learn more Korean and you are good to go.

Just if you are interested, the top 5 are:
  1. Wal-Mart Stores (U.S.)
  2. EXXON Mobil (U.S.)
  3. Royal Dutch Shell (Netherlands)
  4. BP (Britain)
  5. Toyota Motor (Japan)
3 out of 5 are oil and gas companies - where the big bucks are!
And well done Japan - the only Asian country in the top 5. (YEAH! JAPAN ROCKS!)

Digressing further...
I know I said that I would not talk about food previously. But what is Huiling without food?! And so here we go...

Weather was looking good today and I made it to Econs. After my one and only lecture for the day, I decided that I should reward myself for... listening in class. So I decided to go grocery shopping AGAIN! I know I shouldn't since 1 week ain't up yet, but I have this crazy craving for standard milk (not the trim ones) recently and mine is running low at home and I know my cravings would drive me crazy in the middle of the night and I will keep thinking about it and I will be inefficient in everything -> substantial reason for going another round of grocery shopping.

If thats not enough, I also ran out of toilet paper and softener which are also adequate reasons to go grocery shopping. AND I thought a walk would be good to clear some thoughts. Anyways, I was kinda 'torn apart' when deciding where I should shop at - TaiPing (Asian grocery store) or Foodtown. At last, I decided I should go both. (I need to/must/have to/dying to buy avocados in Taiping).

So I made my way to Foodtown and to my HORROR there were SO many BARGAINS I really felt like buying the whole Foodtown. The freaking beef was so inviting, I subconsciously took 3 packets. Of course I had to buy milk and I also must buy spaghetti, I also needed to buy tuna, I also felt compelled to buy bread, I was also coerced to buy toilet paper, I was also induced to buy Mayo, I was also convinced to buy Pasta sauce, I also needed to buy instant noodles and how can I forget about my precious bread?!

And suddenly I was awakened from my frenzy and realized that I can no longer make it to Taiping any more!!! There was just so much stuff in the trolley I don't think I can carry it back. If you think that I did not practise self-control, you are SO wrong. I gave up buying Salmon, fish paste, avocados, peaches, lettuces, sausages and juice! And I'm still brooding about it. You have no idea how much I wanted to get Salmon and avocados and sausages!!!! RAHHHHHHH!!!!!!! If only I had a lorry and a driving license.

And yes, I suffered on the way back. 4litres of milk/softener and 1 bottle of Pasta sauce in my bag and all of the above plus carrots, onions and canned food in my hands. I never learnt my lesson. I was crawling up the stupid slope and felt a scary similarity between that and the time I was lugging my luggage from the bus stop -___-"". Call me spoilt brat but I hate to carry heavy stuff. I've this random thought whenever I walk back from the grocery store - a kind driver or passerby would take pity on me and give me a lift home or help me carry. And I would fantasize sitting in the car and within seconds I'll be home. Or if its a passerby, the weight I'm carrying would be half... *daydreams... and before I know it, I'm home and nobody came to help. -___-""

Ok. Bye bye. I'm going to study like I've an exam tomorrow.

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Last night was good fun
And momo got a lil carried away
And decided that a lil alcohol will not kill
1 shot
And I was literally shot down
-________-""
Sigh.
Alcohol + Huiling = Embarrassment.

I really should and must abstain from alcohol.
I feel so sorry for the people who had to go through my nonsense.
I hope they will forget about it asap.
Rahhhh they will never see this, but gosh, I'm really so sorry!!!

P/s: Bon voyage WQ! Have great fun and take good care. I can't wait for my turn to do an exchange!!!! *jumps around with excitement